I just took the Dr. Phil Personality test on facebook. Now I realize that the validity and scientific significance of pop psychology should be taken with a grain of salt, but... The test consisted of 10 multiple questions. Here are my results:
"The Vain, Self-Centered Leader
Others see you as someone they should 'handle with care.' You're seen as vain, self-centered, and who is extremely dominant. Others may admire you, wishing they could be more like you, but don't always trust you, hesitating to become too deeply involved with you."
I'm a bit disturbed by my results. I don't see myself like this at all. I would never describe myself as vain or self-centered. I value trust and honesty highly. So much so that I've often unintentionally sacrificed someones feeling in exchange for being honest. Does this make me not trustworthy? So I want to know, all of you folks out there that know me give me some honest feedback please. Is this a good description of how others view me?
I am going off the college years I spent with you. So here it goes. I would say the part of handle you with care is somewhat true. But the part of being vain and self-centered is crazy. I found you to be one of the most honest people I know. You say what you mean. I found it refreshing most of the time. I think you care deeply for others. That is just my take on things.
ReplyDeleteHey Heather,
ReplyDeleteyou have an very interesting story. I hope you will find that special someone. I can just say be youself. You are a great lady (:-)
You are a leader, yes. You know what you want and are confident in yourself (aka "dominant" when in reference to the female gender), yes. There is nothing about you or your attitude that's vain. Vanity is cosmetic and surface-level, whereas you are anything but. You are deep and true. If people hesitate to become deeply involved with you it's because it's themselves they don't trust, not you. You ask people to reflect on themselves, on life... lot's of people want other people to distract them from themselves, not ask them to look more deeply.
ReplyDeleteVain. Self-centered. These are labels that make it easy for people to categorize and then move on. If someone is "vain," you don't have to think about them, or what's really going on in their lives. More importantly, if someone is "vain," I don't have to look at myself and figure out why I think that way about that person.
If anything, this personality test is more damaging than helpful. But it's good fodder for thought -- if one choses to think about it. Which you have, which says more to me than anything the test could have.
So I think that when people first meet you may think that you are vain and a bit self centered and totally a leader. Always in control. But when they get to know you the first two fade a bit but the last one will always ring true.
ReplyDeleteLove Lisa